Dropping out of my Ph.D. saved my life

I like to say on this blog that my midlife crisis started three years ago, which is essentially true, but the fact of the matter is, I’ve been in crisis most of my life. The the real flame out started in 2001 when I started a Ph.D. program. I went back to Vancouver after veryContinue reading “Dropping out of my Ph.D. saved my life”

Make room for the hard stuff

We do a lot of avoiding hard stuff. There are genuine reasons for this. As Obama’s sign on his desk in the Oval Office tells us that hard things are hard. I think we covered this before, right? Well let’s keep talking about what it means when we face the hard stuff and when weContinue reading “Make room for the hard stuff”

Being shamed for emotional reactions is a powerful motivator

Kids grow up with a view of the how emotional responses are suppose to work just by watching their parent or parents or primary caregiver(s) respond to the world around them. They also understand how to emotional responses are supposed to work by how their caregivers respond to them. Children want to know if theirContinue reading “Being shamed for emotional reactions is a powerful motivator”

Feeling the feels

The feeling that we are often told to feel is fear. We are so often told, especially as kids, that we’re supposed to feel the fear and do it anyway. What about sadness, grief, anxiety, remorse, jealousy, worthlessness, joy? As humans, we are wired to feel and yet we numb like crazy with drugs andContinue reading “Feeling the feels”

When anger and frustration is your emotional default setting

I’m back! I missed writing this blog but having a two week vacation was amazing, what a great break. We went on our first family road trip with two kids and went so far we almost ended up in New Brunswick – from where we are, that’s about a seven hour drive. We made aContinue reading “When anger and frustration is your emotional default setting”

New resource on the blog: Janet’s quick tips on how to deal with work stress

Ok so I can’t help myself even though I’m on vacation. I started thinking about how I could offer some tips that I use many times at work to manage my stress. They’re short but hopefully you find them helpful! Xo Janet

Janet’s Top Ten signs you need a break from work

10. You swear Jesus Christ at the top of your lungs to no one in particular when you’re reading something on your screen. 9. You read your emails and start immediately rolling your eyes or shaking your head. Again, saying nothing and directed at no one in particular. 8. You can’t remember the last timeContinue reading “Janet’s Top Ten signs you need a break from work”