How do you know when it’s time to fail?

This week I’ve been thinking a lot about failure. It’s good for me, I wasn’t allowed to fail as a kid which isn’t a great lesson frankly. Being perfect all the time is a real pain in the ass. So now I can see that failure is essential. Failure brings growth and lessons. Failure breedsContinue reading “How do you know when it’s time to fail?”

Dropping out of my Ph.D.saved my life part II

Wow did yesterday’s post get a lot of conversation going! That was amazing, thank you all so much for commenting! Sharing my drop out story was awesome, felt good. But I wasn’t totally honest. I dropped out only after trying to move programs because my supervisor died. Ok, let’s back up. So I’m flaming outContinue reading “Dropping out of my Ph.D.saved my life part II”

enforcing my boundaries is a pain in the ass

Meg posted this on Facebook a little while ago and even though I don’t know who Amy Wright Glenn is, I really loved this. Then I started to think about what it actually means for me to be able to do this and I got very uncomfortable. Boundaries are hard for me. I have onlyContinue reading “enforcing my boundaries is a pain in the ass”

Dear daughter, know your worth: a letter I wish my mom had written

There are so many conversations I wish I had had with my mom but never got the chance to. I wish she had told me to know my worth and not settle for being undervalued or overlooked. I have struggled with feelings of low self esteem since I was young and unfortunately, as life takesContinue reading “Dear daughter, know your worth: a letter I wish my mom had written”

I’m a “real” mom too

Let’s keep talking about assumptions, ok? When our first daughter Finley was born in 2011, I was so happy. I couldn’t stop smiling. I wanted to hold her constantly. Meg had had a very difficult pregnancy, lots of nausea and discomfort. She could barely eat hot food. I spent a lot of time at SubwayContinue reading “I’m a “real” mom too”

Please don’t ask me if I have a husband, k?

Assumptions can be a real problem. For example, I look a certain way and I wear a wedding band therefore I must be married to a man, right? I have children therefore I must have given birth to them. I’m a lesbian therefore I must dislike men. You get the picture. Making assumptions is aContinue reading “Please don’t ask me if I have a husband, k?”

I’ve always been a “big girl” and I think I’m finally ok with that

I’ve been called just about every body shaming name in the book – thunder thighs, fat, overweight, fatty, chunky, rolly polly, big girl, fasto, heavy, plump, heavy-set, etc. I got so used to being body shamed as a kid that I just stopped even fighting against it and internalized it as something that was justContinue reading “I’ve always been a “big girl” and I think I’m finally ok with that”