I stole this line from Girls, full disclosure. I’ve been binge-watching the series because I didn’t watch it when it first came out. It’s cheesy but quite poignant.
But good people are what’s important. We’ve had a stressful week trying to get our house sold and we’ve had great friends who’ve helped us enormously. And for that I’m really grateful. And it really underscores for me that good people are what’s important because when things are tough, good people are what keep you afloat.
I’ve had so many good people in my life, I’m really lucky. But I’ve also lost many friends because of anger, resentment, competitiveness, selfishness and apathy. It’s been hard losing those friends and I have many regrets about not treating them with more kindness and love. It’s hard to treat others with kindness and love when you loathe yourself. It’s not an excuse, it just is. I have perspective of twenty years and I can see that I just had no clue how to be a good friend. I thought I did but honestly had no clue.
I think this is one of the greatest things I’ve learned over the last twenty years. I know what it means to show up for people, especially the good people who are important. I really appreciate those people and know how to show genuine appreciation. It’s taken me a long time to figure it out but here we are. I’d rather know this now and be ok with having only a few, really good friends, then be super popular with tons of friends and have no real idea what a friend means. xo Janet